Unpleasant Choice
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sparksolWell, my dad has plans going to go to Oklahoma in mid-June to help his mom and sister with his very-beyond Alzheimer's dad for about a week.
Me, I get to pick whether to go with him or not. And I need to choose soon.
I have to choose soon because if I decide not to go, then my dad has to buy a plane ticket (as it'd be both cheaper and faster than driving) and plans will move on that way. He'll be out there for about seven or eight days, and be helping take care of someone who looks like his dad but isn't in there anymore. My granddad doesn't even recognize his wife or daughter anymore, let alone people who don't live nearby. In the meantime, my mom will be gone to a camp (as every year), so I'd spend most of the week home by myself. I'd do the usual stuff around here, but without the usual interruptions. I might even get some cleaning done, with no one around to ask/tell me to do something in the middle of it. On the other hand, it might be my last chance to see my grandmother.
If I choose to go, no plane ticket will be bought, and we'll drive out (because it'll be cheaper to drive for two people, and only take a day or two to drive switching around.) I'll be out there as well to help out, and to see my grandmother and aunt who I rarely see. As far as my granddad goes, I'd rather see pictures of him than a shell that's outlived him, but I understand not many others feel that way. I'd at least get to see my grandmother and aunt, but watching my dad react to his dad...he's already so worried about his own potential Alzheimer's...it's just horrible. He's fully expecting to end up like that, and worries about the burden he'll become.
My mom wants me to go, my dad says it's up to me, and I can't read him in this one. I don't want him to have to face this himself, but I don't want to go, either. It'd be nice to see two of them, not so nice to see the third, and wretched to see my dad's reactions. And on the slightly petty side of things, I still need to find a job, and won't be able to get anything done a thousand-plus miles away.
No matter my choice, it's a bad one.
Me, I get to pick whether to go with him or not. And I need to choose soon.
I have to choose soon because if I decide not to go, then my dad has to buy a plane ticket (as it'd be both cheaper and faster than driving) and plans will move on that way. He'll be out there for about seven or eight days, and be helping take care of someone who looks like his dad but isn't in there anymore. My granddad doesn't even recognize his wife or daughter anymore, let alone people who don't live nearby. In the meantime, my mom will be gone to a camp (as every year), so I'd spend most of the week home by myself. I'd do the usual stuff around here, but without the usual interruptions. I might even get some cleaning done, with no one around to ask/tell me to do something in the middle of it. On the other hand, it might be my last chance to see my grandmother.
If I choose to go, no plane ticket will be bought, and we'll drive out (because it'll be cheaper to drive for two people, and only take a day or two to drive switching around.) I'll be out there as well to help out, and to see my grandmother and aunt who I rarely see. As far as my granddad goes, I'd rather see pictures of him than a shell that's outlived him, but I understand not many others feel that way. I'd at least get to see my grandmother and aunt, but watching my dad react to his dad...he's already so worried about his own potential Alzheimer's...it's just horrible. He's fully expecting to end up like that, and worries about the burden he'll become.
My mom wants me to go, my dad says it's up to me, and I can't read him in this one. I don't want him to have to face this himself, but I don't want to go, either. It'd be nice to see two of them, not so nice to see the third, and wretched to see my dad's reactions. And on the slightly petty side of things, I still need to find a job, and won't be able to get anything done a thousand-plus miles away.
No matter my choice, it's a bad one.
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Date: 2007-05-29 07:04 pm (UTC)